Samenvatting

This study examines the course, challenges, and potential effects of restorative mediation after domestic violence in the Netherlands. The results suggest that a long history between the perpetrator and the victim can make mediation difficult. The challenge is of considering the needs of both victim and perpetrator, as is also important in cases that do not involve domestic violence. Victims want to ask questions, get recognition, take back control, make agreements, reduce their anxiety, and regain a sense of security. Sometimes they want an apology. Perpetrators want to tell their story, take responsibility, listen, and reassure. The potential risks associated with mediation are secondary victimisation, hidden agendas, and power relations. Provided the mediation is well prepared, these risks can be overcome. Besides risks, mediation also offers opportunities. The process ensures healthy communication, being able to express feelings, direction for the victim, insight and responsibility taken by the perpetrator, recognition, agreements, reduced anxiety, and closure.